This week on the show, Tristan and Michael join me to talk about why we all have imposter syndrome and how to overcome it, the fundamental rules you must understand to becoming a master communicator, and how Tristan and Michael have successfully navigated their relationship as co-founders.
Tristan & Michael and I discuss:
More about Tristan & Michael
Tristan de Montebello and Michael Gendler are 2 of LA's leading public speaking coaches who specialize in helping people communicate in high-stress environments. (UltraSpeaking.com)
Their unlikely story started when Michael coached Tristan from zero public speaking experience to the World Championship of Public Speaking finals in just 7 months.
Since then, Michael and Tristan have coached some of the worlds top creatives, leaders, and entrepreneurs to speak more effectively in the moments that matter most.
This week on the show, Shelley Paxton joins me to talk about liberating the souls of leaders and organizations, writing her book - "Soulbbatical" and being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life.
I also shared my thoughts on staying longer, moving and settling down. I am also launching a 10 week group program that i'm calling The Fireside Wisdom Sessions.
Shelley and I discuss:
More about Shelley
Shelley Paxton is a Chicago-based author, speaker, and professional coach. She spent twenty-six years as a highly regarded marketing and advertising executive stewarding some of the world’s most iconic brands, including Harley-Davidson, Visa, McDonald’s, and AOL. In 2016 she left the corporate world to launch her own company, with the mission to liberate the souls of leaders and organizations by inspiring them to realize their greatest purpose and potential. As a certified professional coach, she works with executives at Fortune 100 companies like Lowe’s and Mars, Inc, as well as private individuals and entrepreneurs. She holds a marketing degree from Boston College, and recently graduated from iPEC, one of the country's premier coaching certification programs. Paxton’s a member of 4PC, Rich Litvin’s exclusive community for extraordinary leaders and coaches, and has been selected to train with Brene Brown on her upcoming Dare to Lead project.
She christened herself Chief Soul Officer and called the journey her Soulbbatical. It did more than change her life, it became her calling.
This week on the show, Robert Kandell joins me to talk about getting honest with one’s self, the effect of withholding your truth from your intimate partner, and his book - unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.
Robert and I discuss:
Living the American dream (which was also his father's dream)
How his intense experiences in Burning Man made him rediscover the world
Key moment when he realized things weren't working
How going to Burning Man impacted him
Burning Man is radical free expression. It's an opportunity to see a new side of yourself and to explore different parts of yourself
How he and his wife started to have an honest conversation about their sex life
On starting to explore alternative sexuality by going to a swingers club and taking workshops that tackle forming non-monogamous relationships
Telling yourself the truth first and foremost then telling your partner and intimate friends the truth about you and then inviting them to tell you the truth about them
Process of getting honest with yourself:
Confronting your thoughts
Getting curious about those thoughts
Researching those curiosities
Terminal uniqueness is when we think we are the only person in the entire world that has this particular thought which creates a lot of fear to come out
Instead of spending our energies beating ourselves up, spend that energy creating the life you truly want
Our greatest fear is that we will end up alone and that fear is what stops us from living
How we are forced to wear the facade about who we are
The communication you need to make in the proper form in order to actually be authentic
Frameworks on teaching people to communicate
If you want to have a masterful relationship, you have to build the foundation early on by authentically relating
We are constantly looking externally from ourselves to perceive our value
Compromise equates to acquiescence
Extending the conversation until both people feel right about the decision
Every time you lie, you are creating distance
About his book “unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them”
More about Robert
Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communications expert, speaker, podcaster, and the author of the bestselling book, “unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.” Since 2002, Robert’s mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He has helped thousands of students up-level their communication, leading them to live more balanced, energized, connected, and purposeful lives.
Robert is a veteran of many worlds, having moved seamlessly from corporate America and the startup world, to becoming an authority in the personal development sphere, to building an international 8-figure business and authoring a bestselling book.
He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insights to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving Dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant.” His style is challenging, fraternal, highly rewarding, and definitely not for the faint-hearted.
This week on the show, Jonathan Aslay joins me to talk about establishing a framework for compassionate dating, when life gets in the way of love, and how to practice self-love.
I also shared how these past weeks had been tough for me and how self-love has been a great part of getting through this period.
Jonathon and I discuss:
How Jonathon hit rock bottom in many aspects of his life and how he got addicted to the process of online dating
His investment in personal development and spirituality helped him when he lost his son
Self-love is like nurturing your soul
Personal development practice is preparing you not just for the chaos but also how to live in inner peace
How his humbling moments allowed him the opportunity to discover who he really is
Grieving with love
Letting go of the fear of death to enjoy the fruit of life
Having a minimum of 15 mins a day doing some self-help personal development spiritual practice
Why he wrote his book, “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?”
On developing the habit of thinking of the future or thinking about the past
Getting into nature
Speaking your truth and doing it with kindness
What compassionate dating is
Connecting with other people in a deeper level and focusing on being present
Being crystal clear about who you are and what you want in compassionate dating
How technology changed dating in this generation
Getting to know who you are by not being in a relationship
When life gets in the way of love/relationship
More about Jonathon
Known as America’s leading midlife dating and relationship coach, Jonathon Aslay is a defender and protector of women’s hearts around the world. He helps women transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding their Mr. Right.
Jonathon studies male behavior. He listens to women and what they want when it comes to love. Most importantly, he is gifted at bridging the gap between the two. He started to see patterns in the things women complained about most and those that continually baffled men. Over time, he realized that processing information from both sides and combining them with his own dating experiences enabled him to filter out the interpersonal “noise” that often causes people to invest in someone who is wrong for them.
In addition to his dating expertise and helping women navigate the dating world, Jonathon Aslay is also a leading figure in the self-love department with his book “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?” which is rated 5 stars and has reached the best-selling ranks on Amazon.
In this book you will learn: simple real-life techniques to understand and create true self-love, exactly what it means to really love yourself, and how powerfully life-changing self-love can be, and how to experience it NOW!