The Nathan Seaward Show

Do you want to create an extraordinary life? A life that is beyond the ordinary? Join me every week as I dive into all the elements of creating an extraordinary life. From creating a business and mission that pull you forward, to deepening your connections, inner peace and sense of adventure, you’ll find it all here on the show.
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Oct 24, 2019

This week on the show, Tristan and Michael join me to talk about why we all have imposter syndrome and how to overcome it, the fundamental rules you must understand to becoming a master communicator, and how Tristan and Michael have successfully navigated their relationship as co-founders.

Tristan & Michael and I discuss:

  • How Tristan developed the feeling of having an imposter syndrome as he went through every step of the competition
  • Powering through and working even harder despite feeling uncomfortable
  • How Michael got into the public speaking world and experienced the imposter syndrome
  • You can really tell a person by how they express themselves
  • Toastmasters taught 2 main skills:
    • Prepared speaking
    • Impromptu speaking
  • Studying the skill of speaking on the spot transformed Michael's life
  • How the world values communicators
  • When you become more confident with your communication, you start feeling more confident about every aspect of yourself
  • Presence versus performance
  • Building the habit of trusting yourself more
  • Having the mindset of trusting yourself and everything will go well is the mindset of all the top performers in the skill of speaking
  • Surrendering and trusting that things are going to work out
  • On navigating their business and figuring out how they can have an impact
  • Helping people have a bigger impact with their speaking
  • Pros and cons of their relationship as co-founders
    • The ability to receive feedback
  • Building the habit of sharing negative withholds
  • Who they are looking for and how their process works

More about Tristan & Michael

Tristan de Montebello and Michael Gendler are 2 of LA's leading public speaking coaches who specialize in helping people communicate in high-stress environments. (

Their unlikely story started when Michael coached Tristan from zero public speaking experience to the World Championship of Public Speaking finals in just 7 months.

Since then, Michael and Tristan have coached some of the worlds top creatives, leaders, and entrepreneurs to speak more effectively in the moments that matter most.

Oct 18, 2019

This week on the show, Shelley Paxton joins me to talk about liberating the souls of leaders and organizations, writing her book - "Soulbbatical" and being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life.

I also shared my thoughts on staying longer, moving and settling down. I am also launching a 10 week group program that i'm calling The Fireside Wisdom Sessions.

Shelley and I discuss:

  • Following someone else's path to success and losing her sense of self along the way
  • Being in her masculine and putting her armour on while operating in the corporate world
  • Being largely on her masculine means being on her protective warrior mode
  • How being in your masculine is largely required in the corporate world
  • Shifting into more courageous and wholehearted leadership and creating that culture
  • Not being able to get into the vulnerable space, playful space is inhibiting our creativity and our innovation
  • Tapping into your creativity and acknowledging your truth
  • Understanding and knowing your soul
  • Principles to Soulbbatical
  • Authenticity as the truest form of rebellion
  • Be careful of the compromises you make in your life
  • The top leader should set the tone, expectations and what success and reward would look like
  • Identifying the misalignment after getting know your self and soul better
  • Soulbbatical is about a way of living
  • Being a Chief Soul Officer of your own life means living by those 5 principles
  • Following your soul's process

More about Shelley

Shelley Paxton is a Chicago-based author, speaker, and professional coach. She spent twenty-six years as a highly regarded marketing and advertising executive stewarding some of the world’s most iconic brands, including Harley-Davidson, Visa, McDonald’s, and AOL. In 2016 she left the corporate world to launch her own company, with the mission to liberate the souls of leaders and organizations by inspiring them to realize their greatest purpose and potential. As a certified professional coach, she works with executives at Fortune 100 companies like Lowe’s and Mars, Inc, as well as private individuals and entrepreneurs. She holds a marketing degree from Boston College, and recently graduated from iPEC, one of the country's premier coaching certification programs. Paxton’s a member of 4PC, Rich Litvin’s exclusive community for extraordinary leaders and coaches, and has been selected to train with Brene Brown on her upcoming Dare to Lead project.

She christened herself Chief Soul Officer and called the journey her Soulbbatical. It did more than change her life, it became her calling.

Oct 10, 2019

This week on the show, Robert Kandell joins me to talk about getting honest with one’s self, the effect of withholding your truth from your intimate partner, and his book - unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.

Robert and I discuss:

  • Living the American dream (which was also his father's dream)

  • How his intense experiences in Burning Man made him rediscover the world

  • Key moment when he realized things weren't working

  • How going to Burning Man impacted him

  • Burning Man is radical free expression. It's an opportunity to see a new side of yourself and to explore different parts of yourself

  • How he and his wife started to have an honest conversation about their sex life

  • On starting to explore alternative sexuality by going to a swingers club and taking workshops that tackle forming non-monogamous relationships

  • Telling yourself the truth first and foremost then telling your partner and intimate friends the truth about you and then inviting them to tell you the truth about them

  • Process of getting honest with yourself:

    • Confronting your thoughts

    • Getting curious about those thoughts

    • Researching those curiosities

  • Terminal uniqueness is when we think we are the only person in the entire world that has this particular thought which creates a lot of fear to come out

  • Instead of spending our energies beating ourselves up, spend that energy creating the life you truly want

  • Our greatest fear is that we will end up alone and that fear is what stops us from living

  • How we are forced to wear the facade about who we are

  • The communication you need to make in the proper form in order to actually be authentic

  • Frameworks on teaching people to communicate

  • If you want to have a masterful relationship, you have to build the foundation early on by authentically relating

  • We are constantly looking externally from ourselves to perceive our value

  • Compromise equates to acquiescence

  • Extending the conversation until both people feel right about the decision

  • Every time you lie, you are creating distance

  • About his book “unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them”

More about Robert

Robert Kandell is an interpersonal communications expert, speaker, podcaster, and the author of the bestselling book, “unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them.” Since 2002, Robert’s mission has been to help people find themselves and use their internal power to live their best lives. He has helped thousands of students up-level their communication, leading them to live more balanced, energized, connected, and purposeful lives.

Robert is a veteran of many worlds, having moved seamlessly from corporate America and the startup world, to becoming an authority in the personal development sphere, to building an international 8-figure business and authoring a bestselling book.

He is the host of the podcast, Tuff Love, where he puts his compassionate, hard-hitting insights to work helping people move forward in their lives with clarity. He has been described as “part football coach, part loving Dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant.” His style is challenging, fraternal, highly rewarding, and definitely not for the faint-hearted.

Oct 3, 2019

This week on the show, Jonathan Aslay joins me to talk about establishing a framework for compassionate dating, when life gets in the way of love, and how to practice self-love.

I also shared how these past weeks had been tough for me and how self-love has been a great part of getting through this period.

Jonathon and I discuss:

  • How Jonathon hit rock bottom in many aspects of his life and how he got addicted to the process of online dating

  • His investment in personal development and spirituality helped him when he lost his son

  • Self-love is like nurturing your soul

  • Personal development practice is preparing you not just for the chaos but also how to live in inner peace

  • How his humbling moments allowed him the opportunity to discover who he really is

  • Grieving with love

  • Letting go of the fear of death to enjoy the fruit of life

  • Having a minimum of 15 mins a day doing some self-help personal development spiritual practice

  • Why he wrote his book, “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?”

  • On developing the habit of thinking of the future or thinking about the past

  • Getting into nature

  • Speaking your truth and doing it with kindness

  • What compassionate dating is

  • Connecting with other people in a deeper level and focusing on being present

  • Being crystal clear about who you are and what you want in compassionate dating

  • How technology changed dating in this generation

  • Getting to know who you are by not being in a relationship

  • When life gets in the way of love/relationship

  • Recognizing co-dependency

More about Jonathon

Known as America’s leading midlife dating and relationship coach, Jonathon Aslay is a defender and protector of women’s hearts around the world. He helps women transform from attracting Mr. Wrong into finding their Mr. Right.

Jonathon studies male behavior. He listens to women and what they want when it comes to love. Most importantly, he is gifted at bridging the gap between the two. He started to see patterns in the things women complained about most and those that continually baffled men. Over time, he realized that processing information from both sides and combining them with his own dating experiences enabled him to filter out the interpersonal “noise” that often causes people to invest in someone who is wrong for them.

In addition to his dating expertise and helping women navigate the dating world, Jonathon Aslay is also a leading figure in the self-love department with his book “What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?” which is rated 5 stars and has reached the best-selling ranks on Amazon.

In this book you will learn: simple real-life techniques to understand and create true self-love, exactly what it means to really love yourself, and how powerfully life-changing self-love can be, and how to experience it NOW!